Relationships

Break ups are devastating experiences, especially if you are still in love with your ex. The situation becomes worse if your ex does not answer your phone calls. Breaking up can really be painful and tough, especially if we do not learn how to deal with it effectively. So follow the guide below to get you on the right track to get a woman back. I am going to enter into a discussion about the psychology of attraction and how you can use that to your advantage to get your ex back if you understand how this stuff really works.

Let’s say that you first met your ex girlfriend in a club (you may not have done, but the principals remain the same). You went up to her and said hi, got chatting and things moved on from there. How does this relate to attraction and pressing emotional trigger points to win back her heart speedily? Well, in a room of guys by stepping forward and saying hi, you are subconsciously communicating that you are a leader amongst men. Now, that may sound far-fetched, but actually it is the exact truth. The reason it is true is that physically and emotionally humans have not developed much from their cave man ancestry. In evolutionary terms we are still in the mouth of the cave wondering where our next meal is going to come from. We are in fight or flight mode much of the time, and when we aren’t we are thinking up ways to get our next meal.

The thing is that despite thinking that that is somehow in the past and that we don’t have to worry too much about what was true for cavemen (“Hey Dude! Haven’t you heard? This is the 21st Century!”). The truth is that in evolutionary terms nothing much has changed. And that whilst the meeting places may be fancier the techniques to win a woman back are surprisingly similar. In truth, when it comes to women we are still very much living in our animal skins standing at the mouth of a cave. Namely, that most men still have an enormous fear of rejection that is out of all proportion to the potential risks involved and that this is primarily grounded in biological mechanisms that cause us to have fears of the consequences of being rejected by women.

Now, where this is all leading to is the fact that your status with your ex is still very much dependent on your social status as she perceives it, and whether or not she thinks of you as a pack leader.  Now, of course, all of this communication is on the subconscious level. She isn’t going to come out and say any of that, or even think it. And most women would deny what I am saying is true. But the reality is that women are hard wired to be more attracted to dominant, assertive guys. You aren’t literally going to bash her on the head, tell her that you are her tribal leader, and that you are whisking her off back to your cave. (Sounds fantastic! I wish it worked!) But what you are going to need to do is to re-connect with the primitive attraction part of her that you triggered all those moons ago when you first went out.

To do that you need to think back first of all to when you first met. Give some thought to the circumstances of your first meeting and what exactly happened to get her attracted to you. Was it something you said? Was it something you did? Was it something instinctive? Now, you may think that you can’t remember this, but if you close your eyes and re-create the scene in your mind’s eye like you are re-running a clip from a movie, then it is amazing quite how many of the specific details you will find that you will be able to recall. Now, once you have some of the specifics then it is time to move forward. Seize on those elements that you can associate with early attraction and start pressing those same buttons in her again. Soon enough the biology of attraction will see her back in your arms

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